I have just decided that I wanted to “Re-Invent” myself, become who I want to be and I have just realised that I actually can do this.
For a long time I have had the belief that other peoples opinion of me actually mattered !!
As many of you know I have been hosting meet ups with the mission of letting people in on what I have learnt about mindset changing and moving forward. The funny thing is that I know that since I have been running the meet ups and really living my life in a much more positive manner that I now have a completely different life and mindset.
I bleet on about getting more confidence and being you, but it takes mind work to really get to grips with it all. I have used words like Uber Confidence, Empowerment, Motivation etc. all these are the words that I really want you to take as yours NOW, if you can, here I give it to you. TAKE IT NOW !!!!!!!
Is it that easy?
If someone belittles you or brings you down you can harbour these thoughts and feelings for a very long time, this has a really detrimental affect on you as a living, thinking person.
You can start to question yourself ? Why don’t they trust me? Why don’t they like me? etc.
Your sub-conscious mind starts to play tricks on you. These people’s words get into your head and if you let them they can stay there forever. But we don’t want that ? DO WE ????????
There are many things you don’t know about a person, even if you have known them all of your life, they will each have their own story, their own sadness, their own set of issues. Trust me, peoples lives are not all as they seem on Facebook !!!
First thing to think about bringing more into your life is being more self loving.
Stop being your own worst enemy, sometimes in our heads we are totally mean about ourselves, so pack that in right now. “I’m not good enough, I’m not pretty, I’m not clever enough, I can’t do that, what will people think of me ” etc. etc. etc.
Have a little play with nice self talk….. such as
I am flipping gorgeous, happy and beautiful, I am clever and funny and can achieve anything I want to any time I choose……… or similar
Now do this every day, as often as you can = when you see the clock and it’s a new hour, say a few lovely things about yourself.
(just quietly in your head if you are on the bus or tube !!!! lol – don’t want you getting locked up)
I’ve been doing this off and on for a while now, and now I really do believe I am better than previously thought. Now some people who don’t like me that much, may think that I am trying to be conceited but nope, it really helps me feel good about myself. And what is more, I no long am bothered about what people think of me, they actually don’t really know the first thing about me” There will always be negative people in your life, those who pick your faults instead of looking for your greatness.
See your own greatness, because that will change everything for you.
My sub-conscious mind really kicked in and now I can accept better thoughts about myself !!! yay
In my last blog I mentioned that during a lesson the PE teacher laughed at me when I said I wanted to be a model…. by writing these words down, I have been able to let go of the resentment I have felt about people telling me “YOU CAN’T”
WHO IS THE BOSS OF US THEN ????
I have been an obedient person, but now I know that I can say no thanks, or I’ll do it anyway even if YOU don’t approve.
Take back your powers…..
I have let go also the frustration of having years and years of thinking I was a sick person, and beating myself up for not earning much income. I really like to pay my way !
But now I feel it’s my time again, however I “boil my onions” a quote from my mother who says alos “cut your cloth” if you have not got the money yet, don’t spend it (but you can in your head- think about having loads of money and spending it however you want)
My father taught me “Neither a borrower or a lender Be”
That saying was taken from a soliloquy by Polonius in Act I, Scene 3 of William Shakespeare’s Hamlet. Polonius is giving advice to his son Laertes before Laertes heads back to school. Here is more of the quote.
Neither a borrower nor a lender be; For loan oft loses both itself and friend, And borrowing dulls the edge of husbandry. This above all: to thine own self be true, And it must follow, as the night the day, Thou canst not then be false to any man.
I love English Lit, but found Hamlet a bit hard going, I remember trying to buff up in the car on the way to London to watch my actress friend Elizabeth Morten perform on stage…. It was fabulous and so was she.
However, now I fully believe that I will have an steady flow of abundance, whatever I want I can actualise, If I really want something I can have it.
I now choose to be a blogger on motivation and lifestyle !!!!
……….what do you want ? Write it down and take a look at it, start feeling excited about it…. expect it to happen.
Most importantly, what I want is to help you feel as good as I do about my new way of thinking. When you find something good, share it
(that doesn’t mean spend hours with those who will sap the life out of you) Say no thanks to coffee with the negatives – time is precious – use yours well.
Just spend a few minutes a day, clearing your mind of rubbish. Find a meditation you love or go and do art or poetry, or gardening, whatever it is you love to do. Find those few minutes. It really helps.
Here’s a lovely photo I took in Wales – Look at the picture for 2-3 minutes, relax your eyes and notice all the little details of it. Reflection, beauty, nature etc. Just relax your mind.
FIND YOURSELF – OR CREATE A BRAND NEW YOU….. Just because YOU CAN
I have 2 more meet ups at the Liverpool Library – come along if you feel it would be a lovely thing for you to do.
I would love to meet you.
THANK you to all those who have come to meet ups with me and inspired me so much, you really have helped me to become more confident.
Keep telling each other the good bits. Keep moving forward …FOCUS on the better things
“All shall be well, and all manner of thing shall be well.”Julian of Norwich (ca. 1342–ca. 1416),