Well what an awesome response to my blog post about toxic friendships. It has really inspired me to spend more time evacuating the thoughts of these types who think they can manipulate your mind by their nastiness.
Crikey I wonder how we have let them have so much room space in our heads for so long? It really beggars belief that we … grown up, with jobs, with families, lives and people to care for are allowing so much Toxicity into our lives.
It really does have to stop.
I remembered a book I bought about 17 years ago called “Nasty Women” It was about trying to deal with them without becoming one.
I have found said book in my book case and re-visited some of the passages in order to remind myself and you lot (my lovely readers) of how to tell them to BE Gone.
By the way it can be men as well as women.
It starts off by categorising people as types of fish/sea creatures which I think is hilarious..
The flounder, the Blowfish, The Piranha, The Shark, The bottom Dweller (eeeeeuuuuu), the Surface Dweller, The Octopus, The Eel, The Sponge and The Corporate Bullhead !!! (Ms Anal-Izer hahahahaha)…
So Which ones are WE dealing with ?
We will all have friends or colleagues we have to be with with daily but I think the worst ones are the Nasty ones, The Sharks.
The manipulation, punishment and control techniques used by Sharky types can seriously affect your well being. Get you down a bit, a lot? Depressed? Unhappy? Time to act – don’t worry you can do it.
And it’s not only for self gain, sometimes it’s literally just to keep you in your place (or Plaice) sorry bit flat that joke !! (Crikey I crack myself up sometimes) ok….
So what do you do to stop Bitch Fest in your head ? It’s one think saying I’m going to detox my head of nasties and quite another actually doing it.
So Clean out your fish tank !!! We all know what rotting fish smell like !!! Do you want to be surrounded by the stench of the Fish Market ?
I love fish – Like Nemo is soooo cute or Dory !!! Bless….
I mean who doesn’t like a good Sea Bass or Lobster ? We can keep the good fish – fish tanks are full of relaxing tiddlers and pretty Angel Fish… but you watch the Angel fish devour anything that stands in their way !!!
Watch yourself if you want to swim with Sharks expect to be bitten.
To deal with nasty smelly fish types we must develop a good set of scales ourselves, do a quick freshness check of our own fishy traits and ensure we are not becoming a bit of a wet kipper ourselves or worse… have we sunk to the bottom with them? Well start swimming to the surface where the fresh air is. It’s ok, forgive yourself and give yourself a good pat on the back for recognising you are on the slippery slope to Fish Pong City – come on it’s ok Swim swim swim…….
Then Breath in and gain a new level of confidence that you really do not need to visit the fish market to day (coffee with Sharks), Avoid them….
Step away from the Bottom Dwellers and the Blowfish bully…. take freebreeze with you in the form of strong mental health. And use it to freshen the air – it may take a few goes but you can do it.
Work on your mind, know that you will be better than ok without these people. You will be back to you, caring and kind. Free from nasty thoughts.
You really do not need to smell of fish
Freshen up your mind with a bit of distance – being with bullies gives them the opportunity to breath on you, you become who you mix with, you allow more of the same, you enable them to chip away at you
YES THEY WILL TALK ABOUT YOU WHEN YOU ARE NOT THERE.
YES THEY WILL TALK ABOUT YOU WHEN YOU ARE THERE, BUT NIP TO THE LOO !!!!!!!
YES THEY WILL ORGANISE THEIR OTHER GET TOGETHER’S WITH OUT YOU – but you will find out eventually… Their fish breath can’t wait for you to know it.. (shudders with the thought of all that fishy pong coming out of them )
YES THEY WILL SMELL STRONGLY OF FISH
YOU WANT TO SMELL OF FISH TOO? THEN YOU JUST CARRY ON DOING THE SAME OLD.
I’ll stop shouting.
Give yourself a break now, get that distance, go somewhere else, meet a new friend.
Be by yourself – it’s actually quite nice.
So here’s a little check list for you to see if your friends are fluffy puppy people or a shed load of rotting fish.
JUDGE? CRITICIZE? GIVE OPINIONS? INVALIDATE OTHERS? ATTACK OTHERS CHARACTERS? BE DEFENSIVE? LABEL PEOPLE? BLAME OTHERS? DOMINATE YOU? REJECT YOU? THREATEN YOU? ABANDON YOU? INTIMIDATE YOU? ETC ETC ETC.
Do you feel better for having spent time with them?
Now then ….. give yourself a proper good showering and clense yourself of dodgy fish scales that you may have lurking – then decide the best plan of action for the big fishy clean up.
We don’t want to be an ugly Fish Face do we? Jump out of that Bowl !!!
Make a nice start today by having better thoughts about people and about yourself .
Ahhh that’s better… I’d better go and make lunch
“Tuna Salad anyone?”