Have you been bullied, have you been verbally abused by someone you thought was a “Nice person”. Have you been lured into a false sense of friendship by someone, but somehow they never let you speak, or pull you down when you do?
We’ve talked about Toxic people in another blog and these Narcissistic people are the worst you can have around you. Because they are a wolf in sheeps clothing, the smiling assassin – they lure you into a make believe situation that you have a real friend then they turn on you – quick as a flash they bring you down!!
After the awful situation of someone basically slandering me, after and now it seems before, the death of my beautiful friend Betty, someone close to Betty has introduced me to this word and told me to research it.
Narcissism !!!! I had already hear of the word – I thought a Vain person, but this is much deeper !!! oh heck yes
It would seem that in the past and now this person, I have been subjected to this type of person. It’s not a pretty situation but it does explain a lot of relationship issues I have had in the past.
Crikey !!! If only I had known better. Recognised it and dealt with it earlier.
If only I had spoken up earlier about the Betty problem.
Thing is, if you are an empath you will feel the pain of it more so than those who are less emotional.
Find out more about yourself… I am – all the time – I’m a real work in progress and I am proud of myself for admitting my own faults and building myself to be a better person. !!!!
If you are recognising some of these traits in yourself, that’s a good start. Just daily add more love and compassion for others into your mind and actions. You will quickly start un-doing these characteristics.
Now you know my motto is “Positive Not Perfect” it goes for us all that we are not perfect, no not even you !!!
We will never be perfect, but we can strive to be better people.
Love and compassion for ourselves first and others second is the key.
But if you recognise it in others… here’s another coping mechanism.
Ok, now we may actually tick a few of those personality things – so don’t go bonkers blaming yourself for things. Recognise them as part of your “Not Perfect” section and address it.
On the other hand if you are the receiver of the Narc, then you may be a bit battered and beaten down mentally. It’s time to rebuild, re-boot, re-adjust and remind yourself that you can change.
YOU CANNOT CHANGE OTHERS. You really need to be careful who you mix with.
Break away. Do it for yourself, don’t look back just GO. Save yourself. You think you won’t be able to live with out them, because they have made you believe that. You will. Go find yourself.
By the looks of things, they will have slagged you off to all and sundry around you anyway !!! That’s what they do. Recruit others into their nasty scheme to keep you down.
This is a truly damaging relationship. Please think about saving yourself.
Think about this
Have you already become a Narc yourself? Just by mixing with them (it rubs off)
Quickly lift yourself out of the situation. If you really can’t because you have gone too Low, then gently start these things – Somewhere, someone has taken control over you and now you have become a bit like them.
Forgive yourself and start the reversal journey.. remember Love and compassion. See it, feel it – BE IT
So it’s a lovely time to change who we are and our relationship with those who are manipulating you.
You can do this.
GET RID OF THEM and find your happiness again.
Have fun with it.
Yes I mean that, once you realise who people are and you really have to get away from them.
Meditate on mind clarity – THIS IS SUPER IMPORTANT. Give your chatter mind a rest.
Then slowly and surely let these manipulative people get the message that you are not to be messed with.
Well I shall leave you with a few links to check out if you feel you would like more info….
Have a great day, loving yourself and your life and be kind to yourself.
I’m going to reflect on my flaws and go easy with myself.
I hope you can do the same…
Big love from me
POSITIVE NOT PERFECT